Why you should talk to strangers

-Kio Stark

(https://www.ted.com/playlists/413/the_beauty_of_strangers)

Summary

"When you talk to strangers, you're making beautiful interruptions into the expected narrative of your daily life — and theirs," says Kio Stark. In this delightful talk, Stark explores the overlooked benefits of pushing past our default discomfort when it comes to strangers and embracing those fleeting but profoundly beautiful moments of genuine connection.

Opinion

I believe more people in our society than we think are afraid of strangers. They take fright when their parents in their childhood told them to not talk to any stranger and to not trust in any of them because of their supposing bad intentions.

I’m not saying that what our parents said is the mistake. Our parents are right. A child is innocent why normally he can’t see if he is in danger when he’s in front of a new situation or a stranger. A child is discovering our society and which kind of person there is inside.

The mistake is to live our life without believing in our learning we get after years observing our society. We must trust in our feelings and intuition as Kio Stark says in his spoke.

I’m not affirming that when we get older our feeling will never deceive us. I’m just agree with Kio Stark when she says that we must believe in our sensitives perception instead of our fears.  

I’m sure that those who leave behind this warning of their childhood and start to believie in the human -stranger or not- they will in all likelihood see that most people are not so bad or dangerous as they thought.

Furthermore, those who are in the situation of believing in strangers even they are more comfortable talking with them than with those who know them. Those kinds of people are as Kia Stark says are the ones that prefer talking with strangers because there no consequences of their talks.

When Kia Stark says that those people expect the stranger to read their mind, I think that isn’t the reason. Perhaps those people feel that stranger understands what he feels. And for them they understand better than the people that know him.

In fact, the only reason why a stranger could understand better what someone feels better than the person who knows this person. The reason is with the stranger there isn’t the idea that you have with the person that knows you.

For me the stranger can’t know what we think because he doesn’t know us. Our unconscious knows it. It why unconsciously I believe that we explain more what we feel. We externalize our feelings because we don’t expect that they could understand us without it.

With close people, instead of externalising our feelings, we expect them to read our mind. That why sometimes stranger seems to understand us better than close people. It’s because with them we are unconsciously externalizing more our feelings.